A Tribute to My Parents

A Tribute To My Parents

This week my parents will celebrate 36 years of marriage.  Wow!  That is such an accomplishment for my Mom.  Just kidding Dad!  It’s an accomplishment for both of you!  It’s something that both of you should be proud of.  Not many people these days can say they have been married for 36 years.  Instead of getting you two a card, I thought I would do a tribute blog post to you and your marriage.

I want to personally thank my parents for being great role models when it comes to marriage.  When they say opposites attract…man they got that right with my parents!  We used to pick at Mom because we always said she robbed the cradle when she married Dad.  Mom is a few years older than Dad, but age is just a number.  Dad was a young whippersnapper when he and Mom got married.  Seriously though, my parents were complete opposites.  Mom was very quiet and introverted and Dad was a little more vocal than Mom and was extroverted in my opinion.  This is funny though because over the years I think this has changed a little bit.  Mom is more outspoken and Dad…well…sometimes…you just don’t know what Dad is thinking.  There were several people who said these two wouldn’t make it.  Well…to those who said that Mom and Dad can now look back and say “How you like me now?!”

You have to understand though; I don’t want you to get the wrong impression.  Their marriage hasn’t always been picture perfect, but they did work to make their marriage last.  In fact, they faced some really tough times.  My Dad was injured at work at a young age and then was let go from his job and to this day is in time because of his injury.  My parents could no longer afford the family car or the house.  We stayed at both of my grandparents’ houses for a while.  During this time my parents were separated for a little while.  This was a very dark time for my family even for my brother and me.  There were moments when I wondered if my parents were on the verge of a divorce.  It’s not easy for children to be faced with a situation like this and I know it’s even worse for the parents.  However, there was a glimpse of light.

To this day I am thankful for my paternal grandmother who introduced my parents to God and a wonderful church family.  My parents eventually got into church and accepted Christ into their lives.  This was a turning point for my parents.  Christ, family members, and the church really helped my family during this tough time.  They gave my family hope.

During this time my parents were able to work through their differences and continue their marriage as one.  To this day, I look to my parents for guidance when I’m facing a situation in my marriage because I know that whatever my husband and I are going through my parents have probably already experienced it.  It’s actually pretty funny.  Both my husband and I look up to my parents and consult them for different things in our marriage.  I normally go to my Mom and my husband normally goes to my Dad.  A while back we told my parents that we know each of us consults with one or the other.  My parents popped up and said, “Yeah we know.  We talk about it together afterwards.”  We all kind of laughed at that comment.  At least I know my parents will never steer us wrong and they have our best interest at heart.

So, to my parents thank you for always being there for each other in the end.  Thank you for living up to your marriage vows.  Thank you for raising me to know what marriage is about.  Thank you for sticking it out even in the tough times.  Thank you for communicating with each other even when you didn’t want to.  Thank you for being marriage counselors to my husband and me.  Thank you for your love and support throughout the years.  Thank you for putting God first in your marriage and in everything else.  Thank you for being a constant reminder that marriage is great when each person puts 150% into it.  Thank you for reminding us that marriage is not always easy, but as with anything hard work, dedication, and a lot of prayers make it a little easier and smoother.

I pray that God continues to bless you both with many more years of happiness.  I pray that God will keep you both healthy and that your marriage will continue to inspire others as it has inspired me.  I pray Mom continues to say that with each passing year their marriage only gets better.  Lastly, I pray that if something does happen Mom will give Dad 5 minutes to pack his things so he can go with her! (Dad ALWAYS says this).

I love you both so much and I could not ask for better parents!

Happy Anniversary Mom and Dad!

“Love is patient, love is kind.  It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.  It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.  Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.  It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.  Love never fails…”  1 Corinthians 13: 4-8 NIV Bible


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Don’t Lose Your Joy

Don't Lose Your Joy-Photo 2In church today the message was about being happy in the place you are in.  I feel more people need to hear this.  I know I needed to hear this.  Too many times we let things get to us and we make mountains out of mole hills.  The scripture referenced was Philippians 1:18.  The message hit home because of the struggles I have gone through especially with infertility.

It is so easy to be happy when things are going in our favor.  We sing happy songs, we whittle, and we smile big.  I personally whistle when things are going well.

What happens when things do not go as planned?  Do I have you thinking now?  Think back to the last time something did not go as planned or maybe someone hurt you…yeah now you’re thinking.  How did you react in that situation?  Could people still see your joy or could they see your bitterness?  This is where many of us will do that hard swallow where you know I’m talking about you.  That’s what I did in church today.  It’s not easy to be joyful in times where we seem to be down on our luck.

I have two life events that I thought of during the message.  In one event I was done wrong and some people really close to me hurt me.  The other event is my battle with infertility.

In the first event where I was hurt by two people close to me I will tell you it is not easy to deal with a situation like this.  I will be honest in saying that I let bitterness overtake this situation recently.  As most of us have heard “two wrongs don’t make a right.”  We have to stop letting bitterness take over our emotions and situations.  When we let bitterness in we let numerous other things in like hatred or the feeling of revenge.  If I let the bitterness stay in this situation nothing will get accomplished and it will probably drive a wedge between myself and the others involved.  Going forward I need to bring joy back into this situation.

The other event is my battle with infertility.  My husband and I have been fighting this for a while.  Let me tell you infertility is more serious than some people make it out to be.  Infertility can mess with your mind, emotions, and it’s already messing with your body.  When I first started going through all of the infertility stuff I felt horrible, miserable, and less of a woman.  There were times where it did affect my marriage because of my emotions.  I was in the valley and in a rough part of my life; however, I turned to God.  Thankfully, I have a husband who is supportive, talks me through things, and helps to keep me grounded.  He also showed me a great deal of compassion during this time.  There have been moments during my infertility journey where again I let bitterness in.  Let me tell you one of the most painless things is when you and your husband have been trying for several years to get pregnant and someone very close to you tells you they are pregnant.  I didn’t know what to do accept to cry.  It’s a feeling I cannot begin to describe.  The best way I can put it is as we say in the country you feel like someone sucker punched you.  It takes the breath and words right out of you.  I did overcome this and actually became very excited for them.

During this infertility obstacle my husband and I have had many ups and downs, but through it all I would like to think that we kept our heads held high and we’ve learned how to bring the joy back into our situation and we continue to look towards God.  We’ve left the bitterness out to dry.  We are finding our joy through adoption.  As we continue through our adoption process we will continue to sing and have joy with each obstacle that we face along the way.  We know God puts us in places to build our faith.

Don’t let bitterness in.  Keep your joy like Paul did in Philippians 1:18.  No matter how many mountains we face God gives us the courage and strength to climb them.  When people can see your joy in the tough times it becomes a testimony for Christ.  We have to realize that some of our biggest obstacles can bring one of our greatest blessings.  Speaking from experience I can tell you that one of mine and my husband’s biggest obstacles of infertility will produce one of our biggest blessings…a new member to our family through adoption.

Keep your joy no matter what comes your way and keep singing your song because no one can sign your song better than you can.


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